Your friends like you just the way you are. They will tend to resist change and limit ambition. This is not because they hate you but because they do not wish to lose you.
The government and the media support them. The docile citizen is easily governed and sold to. He lacks self awareness.
Surely it would be better (the experts think) if men were made less Viking and more Ikea man?
The horse that is castrated may become more docile but it will never win a race. It loses its fire.